Midlife reinvention · Abundance · Life on your terms
Opt out of the default. Midlife is your plot twist.
For women in midlife who are done living on autopilot and ready to dream bigger, laugh more, and write the next chapter on their own terms.
Does this sound like you?
☀ You’ve spent years taking care of everyone else, and you’re quietly wondering: what about me?
☀ You followed the script. It just doesn’t fit anymore.
☀ You have dreams you haven’t said out loud yet.
☀ You’re ready for life to feel bigger, brighter and a whole lot more fun.
Then you’re in exactly the right place, friend.
What we talk about here
Three ways to live a sunnier second half
01 Reinvention
Letting go of who you thought you had to be, and getting curious about who you’re becoming.
02 Abundance
Trading scarcity and limiting beliefs for possibility, joy and a deep sense of enough.
03 Life on Your Terms
Opting out of the default and designing a next chapter that actually feels like you.
The Podcast
Opt Out of the Default
with Kristin Lohmeyer
New episodes every week
Real talk for women ready to stop living on autopilot
Perspective shifts, big possibility, and honest conversations, including guest interviews starting this November.
Opt Out of the Default is for women who are starting to wonder… wait, do I actually want this life, or did I just get really good at following the script?
I’m Kristin Lohmeyer, and this podcast is all about questioning the way we’ve been told life is supposed to look and giving ourselves permission to want something different. We’ll talk midlife reinvention, unconventional living, dreaming bigger, travel, freedom, creativity, family, money, business, simplifying, starting over, and all the weird little ways we wake up and realize we get to choose again.
Some episodes will be just me sharing what I’m learning, questioning, changing, and trying in my own life. Others will be conversations with people who have opted out in their own way and built something that feels more like them.
This isn’t about blowing up your whole life for the sake of it. It’s about getting honest enough to ask, What do I actually want? And having the courage to start creating more of it.
If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot, dream a little bigger, and build a life that feels like yours, you’re in the right place.
You don’t have to live the default life. You get to build your version.
The closer I get to 50, I’m realizing there are quite a few things I’m just not available for anymore. 😂
People-pleasing, constantly worrying about what everyone thinks, surrounding myself with negativity, comparing my life to somebody else’s, and making my dreams smaller so they sound a little more reasonable…and in this episode we are talking about ALL of it!
I’m sharing how much my perspective has changed over the years, why my definition of success looks absolutely nothing like it used to (apparently younger me wanted a maid and a butler 😂), and why I’m more excited about this next chapter of my life than ever.
We’re talking about freedom, abundance, self-worth, ridiculously big dreams, and why I am completely done choosing between having fun and making money.
Because as far as I’m concerned, it’s not either/or anymore. It’s YES AND.
And I have a feeling my fifties are going to be one hell of an adventure. 💛
Come hang out on insta with me!!!
~ Kristin
Question the script, follow the fun, and opt out of the default.
Opening January 2027
The Unrealistic Collective
Permission · Possibility · Play
A monthly membership for women who are done being realistic. Come for the possibility, stay for the laughs, and find a circle of fellow dreamers that feels like home.
Permission
Give yourself the green light to want more, change your mind, and start again.
Possibility
Dream out loud and leave every month brimming with what could be.
Play
Laugh, explore, and have fun with a circle of women who totally get it.
Free for you · Takes 10 minutes
What are you no longer available for?
The people-pleasing, the “shoulds,” the outdated rules about who you’re supposed to be in midlife. Grab my free printable kit and officially opt out of everything that’s been holding you back.
📝 The “No Longer Available For” list
Name everything you’re done tolerating, then pick ONE thing to opt out of this week.
🗣️ 5 guilt-free scripts
Exactly what to say when you want to say no, without the essay or the apology.
🎟️ Printable permission slips
Cut them out, sign them, and stick them where you’ll see them every day.
Hi, I’m Kristin!
I’m wildly enthusiastic about life, a mom of teens, and right in the middle of my own midlife reinvention. This is where I share everything I’m thinking about, trying, loving and questioning, all in the name of making life feel bigger, more connected and more alive.
